Why can't I focus on things?

Several friends have had a letter from talking about: I do read books the old gods go, go look at God looking at, and do not know when God's going. General we will go to condemn God, "God go bad, I should not be distracted.", Which would imply that the process itself consumes the attention of the spirit of it will be more difficult to concentrate. A recent Psytopic friends to no avail (a pseudonym) also encountered this problem, only difference is that he put himself into clips of the past, perhaps better equipped to help everyone know the cause of God go. After his own consent, and that users are willing to share, at the same time he also would like to have the guidance and respond to users. Psytopic Appendix along with the reply in the post. -psytopic.com


Why do I always go God?

Dear Teacher

Hello:

I called to no avail (a pseudonym), I see in the online and mail your information, you give very presumptuous to write such a letter. Since the question has long troubled me has not been effectively resolved, so I venture to suggest to you for help.


I was born in 1985 in Heilongjiang Province Forestry Administration Daxinganling Huzhong called source tree farm, the father is the director of a state-owned timber mill and his mother was a local elementary school teachers. Early stage of my academic excellence at the local, but no friends, my small thin body, almost never play with the boys.

Very precocious, beginning of year 4 have good sex. The fifth grade when the family moved to Zhongjiang County of Sichuan Province, which is the seat of my ancestral home, the father to work at a paper mill, unemployed mother, I went to school in the North River County, on academic performance in, they still do not have friends, and eccentric personality , very jealous.

11 years old at the school radio station because the job is not to one's liking, has been blamed for Teacher, and there was a strong desire to commit suicide, but because of fear, finally giving up.

Two-year middle school our family moved to Qingdao Development Zone, Parent has operated long-distance passenger transport, taxis, 15 at my school, students have improved relations. Enjoy working in a female classmate, and the same was admitted by their high school classmate.

After high school and one of my female classmates there is a conflict, she has to use my pursuit of those who go out and I with a friend because of her enemies. High time, because a late conflict with the teacher, almost hands, it both our duty.

My entire high school academic basic entirely abandoned, join the school team and become my only bright spot in Senior Living. Basically do not lecture me, but likes to write novels, essays, and published a few. Later, because I was the arts subjects, martial arts can not add at entrance points, left the team. Began to enjoy movies, and performing self-Television, Film Institute would like to apply. High when I recognize a large study of three-year-old sister, go near the comparison.

Senior high school at the end of grade parents can not be aware of my university, so for the relatives asked me to do a false Daxinganling account, become a college entrance examination immigrants in 2003 entered my 381 exam in Heilongjiang University School of Law. July 2003, my sister and the study established that the couple relationship, she has been in Beijing自考read. First year in college, my subjects except English in middle-grade level, and add school student union, student union school sophomore when保卫部, director of promotion. The End of the summer vacation my freshman year went to Beijing to see her learn, paradoxically, has always been more of her breaking up in 2004.

Two-year university, I have always had a calm, middle-study, I enjoy community activities, enjoy performances because, to get to know a group of friends enjoy performing. At the end of sophomore year, I do not have a girl that likes the English have a good impression on me, because I have always hated studying English, the girls would ask me for test in English, was captured School, the two were ordered to drop out. After my parents spent nearly 100,000 yuan bribe School Leaders, and finally both of us to keep the school.

Since bribery School found that people fear what my big three no four contact with any classmates, the Class did not go off on classes, along with other senior students only, because I have a lot of credit has been set aside to repair. Precise attitude my two years of all credits, and start to do some promotion work of the master of ceremonies, beginning with the broadcast media, presided over the study of knowledge, presided over a number of cultural activities in schools. To get to know a number of friends outside the major. I hope we can engage in the media industry.

School would have to downgrade my arrangements are for one year, and 04 graduate students, but gives me 07 diploma and degree certificates. Confused on my graduation, and missed the same grade will graduate recruitment.

October 2007 I came to Beijing, Chinese University of rental near the basement, and sit in at the University of Chinese media and television broadcast the auspices of the postgraduate curriculum planning. We hope we can engage in media work. And recognize the current girlfriend, her four-year-old than I am. After three months, because of the economic nervous, I start to work in a television film company to shoot the ads, made coffee shop waiter, hotel waiter to do but which are not long. July 2008, I was hired to host television Weihai, but consider again and again, do not want to leave because his girlfriend in Beijing, gave up the opportunity to go in Weihai. Later I entered the Huayi Brothers Group, to do publicity Commissioner, with the crew to do publicity work, so they want to travel. Huayi Brothers in October 2008 I went to send "Dragon Saber Yitian" shooting, which lasted five months, his girlfriend at the time to make a little temper, I do not care that she was giving up my job of Huayi Brothers. NGO after a public organization, but not very successfully, by the end of December 2008 have been laid off.

Conflicts with my girlfriend, start to appear and in 2009 she graduated from graduate student, hopes to have a safe and secure home. But she did not let me have a sense of security. January 2009 I returned to their parents has been the judicial review at the contents of the examination. I intend to take part in the judicial examination in September, but there is more than a year I have not been studying the law. I do not want a lawyer, but my girlfriend and parents want to give an explanation, so that they feel stable. If my girlfriend told me考不上this year, I would not delay her.

Now I have two months of review, it is entirely a mess, one of the most important reason is that I find it difficult to concentrate on reading. God is going very normal thing. I could not even focus the attention of more than 20 minutes, which made me very upset. I have always believed that psychology is a practical science, the University also took part in during a minor in psychology, but only a superficial study. Eccentric jerk me from an early age, stubborn temper, which is hindering the growth of the important reasons for me, I have been constantly sum up and reflect on the hope that can give up a lot of bad habits. Just want to introduce more teachers to be able to know I have a, I am not a good person, even a person who committed a crime, but I now want to change, I want to do something about the families and lovers. But it can not concentrate on reading, which was really very frightening. I also tried different methods, but are not effective. Whenever I read books of quiet, just a few minutes, I would from a book on the association to start a word, my mind will appear before seen or done movie screen, very clear, each lens, there will be lines, and then a plot from a legend to other movies, pictures, articles.

This is precisely what has been troubling me, I need to concentrate on one thing to do, otherwise I will come to naught, so I wrote to you this letter, I think the drug may be able to solve my problem, of course, I do not necessary drugs or stimulants, I urge you to show me what kind of drug at a certain period of time can be concentrated in the spirit of the thing to do, nothing will be legend. I know this sounds ridiculous, but apart from science, I really do not know what to believe!

Absent-minded when I test, job interview, when I absent-minded, civil service exams when I absent-minded, I was so disgusted with the examination of people, but I have no other choice, only through the examination in order to keep me and my happy home. Dear Teacher, I just need to be able to allow me a way to focus.

Yours sincerely
Salute

To no avail (a pseudonym)



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Psytopic's reply:

Hello, no avail (a pseudonym):

In a letter on, in fact, you already know their problem:

You say, "attention deficit" (Of course, we think this is too serious a description of terms), is likely to be transferred as a contradiction, to avoid reality and psychological means of defense is the ideal and reality in the emergence and consolidation of the conflict out of of.

Your question in the analysis of the former, it may be to answer the question:

If your in a bad mood today, do not look into the reading, the following response more in line with what your present situation?
A. do not read do not get into school, and simply do not read, and play to play, listen to music on the Internet.
B. how had this, ah, how I study it, I can not work, how worthy of my family, my future over the whole ...

If you chose A, then you probably do not need the help of others, the following can be omitted from the reply did not look; If you chose B, then you do not need the help of others, because you will be able to their own efforts to solve the problem.

If B is closer to your current status, we can determine the initial, you said "attention deficit" is in fact forced the performance of a minor, which have not yet reached the "symptoms" of the level, and, like sneezing (sneezing not equal cold), sometimes in their daily lives we also have obsessive-compulsive disorder patients and duplicate similar ideas, such as windows and doors are not closed for fear of loss, fear of illness caused by neglect hygiene, but they do not exaggerate the danger, do not put at risk to imagine as the real thing, and do not generate their own ideas over those of the reaction of fear, these ideas will not continue to become obsessive-compulsive symptoms.

You mentioned in the letter:
"I do not want a lawyer, but my girlfriend and parents want to give an explanation, so that they feel stable. My girlfriend told me if this考不上, I would not delay her."

Let us take a closer look at the logic of this sentence:
I do not want to lawyer: that is to say your mind is "no lawyer";
My girlfriend and parents want to give an explanation: the "explain" the natural sense of a stable of "lawyer", so you "want a lawyer."

This subtext is: I do not want to do lawyer, but they want to lawyer.

So by contradiction, but this is not the crux of the problem; the key is a contradiction, our selection.

Choice has a "positive" and "negative", which is usually determined by the habits of thinking. Let us look back at your past experience:
"11 years old at the school radio station because the job is not to one's liking, has been blamed for Teacher, and there was a strong desire to commit suicide"
"High time, because a late conflict with the teacher, almost get to work"

You can see their way of thinking used to it?
Let us simplify the look:
Not to one's liking -> suicide
Late the conflict -> almost hands

Whether they have put to question the negative aspects of orientation, at the same time a tendency to exaggerate the negative consequences of this?
This is give you our first recommendations is also a member of Psytopic mantra: everything good aspects of North Korea want to.
First start up would be more difficult to do, may wish to consider有意识地去their own ideas and actions have a negative tendency, as well as ideas and actions of these results, whether the "economic": such as "lawyer to do" yes "so that they feel that the stability" the only way and the best option for you, there is "so that they feel that stability", at the same time "is like my" other matters or career?


In addition, you also mentioned in the letter:
"Eccentric jerk me from an early age, stubborn temper, which is hindering the growth of the important reasons for me"

We know that every character has its two sides, on the positive aspects of personality such as "insist" on the negative is "stubborn." You believe "they can control", but also because of this, in case of problem, you usually take the "confrontation" approach, such as "and class conflict, almost hands." In the same "go read books of God", you must not be allowed to go their own God, but be aware that you do so at the same time to remind and strengthen their own gods go. The more strongly this time you force yourself to "not force" is to force yourself to go in fact "forced."

This is give us your second piece of advice: go with the flow.
Need to be reminded that "letting nature take its course" is not a laissez-faire, nor is it "as nothing" but the courage to admit the existence of the problem (sometimes God will go), but also to see the problem is temporary, limited, and make up (not to fall into the "If life goes on like this" hypothesis trap, God does not want life is going easy,:).


Back to the beginning of the problem mentioned, if your choice is B, then A is the direction of your efforts.

Psytopic Group.

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