这是一位被称为美女CEO的网友在三十岁来临那天写下的感言，从事业，感情，生活和美容四个方面分享自己的观念和经验。有人说，文中的观点厚黑味道浓重，也有人看后说很实用，也应该让男人来读读。例如对于事业，“大家都是出来卖的”，“不要滥用怜悯给竞争失败的人，因为下一次也许会是你。”感情上，“不妨让他为你多花点时间和钱，通常人投入的越多，就越难割舍。”生活的常态应该是“痛苦和无聊”的，因为“欲望不实现就痛苦，欲望实现了就无聊。只有刚刚实现后那短暂的时期是幸福。所以幸福必然是短暂的”。-psytopic.com
谨以此文献给我的众姐妹，共勉。
－王潇
事业篇
无论是打工还是创业，其本质无外乎向老板或客户出卖自己的有形或无形产品。一言以蔽之：大家都是出来卖的。既然是出来卖的，一要卖相好，二要敬业，三不要嫌买货人。所以，第一要保持美丽，第二要多做事少抱怨，第三看在钱的份上要适当妥协。
付出不一定有回报，努力不一定有收获。学习知识和锻炼身体除外。
我们是动物进化来的，即使高级也还是动物，达尔文主义一直适用。只有把自己训练成更敏捷、更强壮的动物，才能活得好点。所以懒散消极肯定不是长久之计，要是在动物世界，在金字塔底的你还这么耗着，已经死了。
这个时代的规律就是没有绝对公平竞争，接受这一点，然后武装自己投身到轰轰烈烈的不公平竞争中去。顺应规律而行，也是达尔文主义。
先赢了再说。享受你战利品的时候，你心里可以继续愤世嫉俗。不要滥用怜悯给竞争失败的人，因为下一次也许会是你。
争取半天的愿望没有实现，一要怪自己学艺不精，二要怪自己运气不好，然后赶快行动起来争取下一个愿望。前面投入的时间精力，统统算做沉没成本。勇于承担沉没成本是出来混的第一课。
感情篇
谈恋爱的条件，就是让自己从精神到物质，从灵魂到肉体，因为有了对方都比从前的状态更好。否则何必呢？
如果男人现在对你一般，不要指望他会在婚后对你更好,他对你最好的时刻一定是追求期和热恋期。如果这两个时期你尚且对他不满，那你要好好想想了。
不妨让他为你多花点时间和钱，通常人投入的越多，就越难割舍。
就算你为已经他投入了很多时间和钱，该离开的时候也要利索点离开。勇于承担恋爱的沉没成本，是展开新生活的前提。
如果你看中他的钱，在适当的时候要到这钱才是你的。打铁要趁热，要钱要趁爱！
你的直觉往往比事实还准确。
两个人最终过起日子来，”也就那么回事”已经是非常好的结局，因为很多人发现婚后”完全不是那么回事”。
一个身体再性感，展开后翻来覆去看也就两个平方米，互相失去兴趣是正常的规律。只是晚点失去兴趣的那个人会觉得受伤。
成功的感情关系里，爱情是一定会转化成亲情的。亲情就是Happy ending。如果爱情没了亲情又没形成，那该关系已经失败。通常人们用生育来协助这一转化的完成。
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老人说的道理大部分都是对的，比如结婚要找个踏实顾家的男人，但是这些道理只有在谈上两三个让你遍体鳞伤的恋爱后才会明白。撞了南墙自然懂得回头，怕就怕一直没回头。
男人也是人，他不是必然比你还要聪明、勇敢、勤劳和富有。如果你不能爱一个男人的本尊，而是爱上你期待中的他的话，你会一直失望，而他会因压力过大而沉默和崩溃。
对一个人的崇拜不足以支撑琐碎的日常生活。偶像要走下神坛，他谈完世界观也要去大便。
自古以来，就有白蛇和青蛇，白玫瑰与红玫瑰，男人得陇望蜀防不胜防。不如别防了，剩下精力多挣点钱，或者美容保养。万一失了阵地还保有战斗力再抢一块。
生活篇
越年轻的时候，越可以应用”试错法”，即在不违反健康，不触犯法律的基础上，搞清哪些东西是真正适合自己的。为了让以后的岁月做对的几率更大，不妨前期多试点错的，磨刀不误砍柴功。
每个人先天能量区别很大，有的人寡淡无味，有的人跌宕起伏，都是按自个儿的能量定额来的。先天能量这个东西没法攀比，自己跟自己比，满足就好。关键是正确估计自己的能量。
欲望不实现就痛苦，欲望实现了就无聊。只有刚刚实现后那短暂的时期是幸福。所以幸福必然是短暂的，痛苦和无聊才是生活的常态。这是我们的欲望决定的。
别人的任何选择和决定都有他自己的道理，尽量理解和不干涉。但如果伤害到你的心灵和财产，一定要干涉。
面子是别人给的。别人会把面子给那些那坚持表现出诚实、勇敢、勤奋和靠谱的人。不以以上这些元素作为给面子准则的人，你也不用在意他给不给你面子。
不用等到什么时机都成熟了再开始做一件事，在游泳中学会游泳，在开车中学会开车，摸着石头是可以过河的。前提是输得起。
通常来说有两种状态：痛苦的哲学家和快乐的猪。痛苦的时候，尽量搞清痛苦的缘由，否则就成了痛苦的猪。
美容篇
作为女性，你的外表和你的性格共同决定你的命运，这是残酷的现实。
无论哪朝哪代、东方或西方，端庄路线是永远不会错的。装也要装的像。
腰围是黄金分割和女性体态婀娜的关键，是少女和大妈的分水岭。要拼死保持。
学好化妆术，拾掇好再出门。你自己会开心，别人对你会多点耐心，百利而无一害。
如果你单身，建议你保持时刻准备着的状态，也就是说尽量随时都看上去很美。很难说哪朵云彩下雨，也许转角就遇到爱。
当你对美好身材的渴望远远大于你对食物的渴望，你就可以成功减肥。减不下来那是因为你对美的渴望还不够强烈。
后记
以上的种种经验教训只能解决技术上的问题，长得是不是美，工作是不是如意，男人是不是好，其实全在运气。
祝我的姐妹们心想事成！
注：如果您想听听男人三十的心声，请点击这篇文章。
Thirty women's reflections
This is a beauty known as the CEO of friends at the advent of three-year-old to write the speech that day, from the cause of the three aspects of life feelings and share their ideas and experience. Some people say that the text in some thick black Taste perspective, but also look after someone said they were very practical, but also should be allowed to read a Man. For example, the cause, "we are all sold out," "mercy to the competition not to abuse the failure of people, perhaps because the next will be you." Emotional, "you might as well let him spend more time and money, usually people The more inputs, the more difficult it is let go. "normal life should be" painful and frivolous "because" the desire not to achieve on the pain, the desire to achieve a bored. only realize after just a short period of time that are happy. so happy is bound to be short-lived. " -psytopic.com
I would like to give my众姐妹literature, encourage each other.
- Wang Xiao
Career articles
Whether entrepreneurs or employees are, by their very nature无外乎to the boss or customers selling their products, tangible or intangible. In short: we are all sold out. Now that are sold out, selling one lover, two to work, not three people suspected of buying. So, firstly to maintain the beauty, the second to do more with less to complain about, look at the third of the money on to the appropriate compromise.
Not necessarily have to pay returns, efforts do not necessarily have harvested. Learn the knowledge and physical exercise, except.
We are the evolution of animals, even if the animal is still advanced, Darwinism has been applied. Only put their training into a more agile, stronger animals, can live better. Certainly not so lazy negative long-term solution, if in the animal world, at the end of the pyramid so you耗着, was dead.
This time is that there is no absolute law of fair competition, and accept that, then arm themselves into vigorous unfair competition go. Comply with the law while also Darwinism.
First repeat win. Enjoy your booty, you can continue to feel cynical. Pity not to abuse the failure of people to compete, maybe because the next will be you.
For half a day there is no desire to achieve, one to blame their own学艺不精, second to blame their own bad luck, and then act quickly to stand up to the aspirations of the next. Front investment of time and effort, all counted as sunk costs. The courage to bear the sunk costs are出来混the first lesson.
Feelings of articles
The conditions of love is to let themselves from the spirit of the material, from the soul to the flesh, because of the status of the other side are better than ever. Otherwise, why should it?
Man now, if you generally do not expect that he will be better for you after marriage, he was the best of times you must be the pursuit of life and love period. If the two periods even on your dissatisfaction with him, then you have to think about the good.
You might as well let him spend more time and money, usually many more people invested, the more difficult it is let go.
Even if you have him put in a lot of time and money, the time left to leave agile point. The courage to bear the sunk costs in love, start a new life are the premise.
If you see him money, at an appropriate time to go to this money is yours. To follow soon, should like to take this love for money!
Your intuition accurately, more often than truth.
Two people have finally come to play, "then the matter would" have a very good outcome, because a lot of people found that marriage "is not so different."
A sexy body and then started after the two square meters will watch over and over again, loss of interest in each other is a normal pattern. Only delayed the loss of interest in the person will feel injured.
Successful relationship, the love is affection must be transformed into the. Affection is the Happy ending. If not the affection of love has no form, then the relationship has failed. It is usually used to help children to complete this transformation.
Said the old man the reason most of them are right, such as marriage to find a practical Gary Coull of Man, but the truth only at about 23 on a mass of bruises of love you will understand later. Naturally knows how to hit a brick wall back, for fear of fear had not been back.
Man is also a person that he was not inevitable than you are smart, brave, hardworking and productive. If you can not love a man's本尊, but you look forward to Fall in love with him in, you will always be disappointed, and he will pressure the silence and collapse.
Worship of a people is not enough to sustain the daily life of trivial.走下神坛idol to his view of the world also want to go Moving on stool.
Since ancient times, there is the White Snake and Green Snake, White Rose and Red Rose, Man得陇望蜀impossible. Other than anti-a, and the remaining energy挣点钱many, or cosmetics. The event of loss of the position also maintain the combat effectiveness of a re-steal.
Living articles
The more young time, the more can be applied to "trial and error", that is not in violation of health, does not violate the law on the basis of determining what is truly fit their own. Subsequent years in order to let the chance to make even greater, many may wish to pre-pilot's mistake, the Brothers do not misuse Zhigong wood.
Each innate energy difference between the people, and some people寡淡tasteless, and some ups and downs people are by myself to the energy scale. Innate energy this thing can not be comparison, with their own than to satisfy the like. The key is an accurate assessment of their own energy.
Desire does not realize the pain, the desire to achieve a bored. Just realize that after only a short period of time are happy. Therefore bound to be short-lived happy, pain and boredom of life is normal. This is the U.S. desire for a decision.
Others have no choice and decisions of his own reason, as far as possible to understand and non-interference. However, if the harm to your soul and property, we must interfere.
Face are given by others. Others will insist on face to those that showed honesty, courage, hard work and the people靠谱. Not to give over these elements as criteria in the face, you do not care about him do not give face to you.
What time do not have to wait all the sophisticated start to do one thing, learn to swim at swimming, learn to drive in the car, feeling the stones across the river is the. The premise that输得起.
Normally have two states: the suffering of the philosophers and the Happiness Pig. Painful time, as far as possible to understand the causes of suffering, otherwise it becomes painful Pig.
Beauty articles
As a woman, your appearance and your personality have jointly decided your fate This is the cruel reality.
Either which on behalf of North Korea, East or West, dignified route are always wrong. Loaded also loaded the like.
Waist circumference are golden section and the key to graceful female figure, are girls and Mother watershed. Desperate to maintain.
Learn makeup techniques,拾掇good to go out again. Yourself be happy, others will be many points on your patience, and will not do any harm.
If you are single, I suggest you maintain a state of preparation time, that is to say as far as possible at any time looked beautiful. Cloud is very difficult to say what color the rain may be encountered on the love angle.
When you desire a better body is much larger than the food you desire, you can successfully lose weight. Minus down it is because you desire the United States is also not strong enough.
Postscript
The above lessons learned can only solve the technical problems, looks are not the United States, are not ideal job, Men are not good, in fact, wholly at luck.
I wish my sisters come true!
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God favored me:2009-03-12 20:28 PM
现实人说现实社会！
理性，精辟，支持！
年少的女子看到会少走弯路！
而过来人看到则后悔走过的弯路！
sidneyulei:2009-03-13 16:06 PM
写得很好，拜读了．
佐:2009-03-13 18:48 PM
少有的聪明女人
知道怎样在这种社会保护自己，那就是比别人更强大
先赢了再说。 怜悯没有任何价值
勇于承担沉没成本
这些都是男人该懂的道理
美容篇尤其在理 女人就该是漂亮的
对那些正处于少女时期却有着一副大妈身材的女生深感遗憾
自己没点吸引力怎么吸引别人
当然内涵也很重要。这点男女通用
最后：佩服下楼主 很喜欢这类型的女人
I’m Man
20years
Guest:2009-03-15 11:20 AM
BS作者的，莫非都涉世不深？作者讲的东西只不过稍微现实了一点点，很多真实的残酷根本就提都没提！
zcat:2009-03-15 11:21 AM
BS作者的，莫非都涉世不深？作者讲的东西只不过稍微现实了一点点，很多真实的残酷根本就提都没提！
zcat:2009-03-15 16:58 PM
又看了一遍，谈不上精辟，常识而已
ian:2009-03-16 10:15 AM
很想指责你，但又实在找不出来，所以妥协了，但还是建议你多看看《论语》《道德经》，结合一起，天下无敌。以德服人！！！切记
ian:2009-03-16 10:24 AM
很想和你讨论一番，从你文章里看到我自己的影子，如果有幸请加我msn
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旺德福:2009-03-16 11:53 AM
虽然理论是对的，但是我并不想全盘这么实践
每个人有每个人的做事与对待风格
人生观也不一样
开始醒了:2009-03-17 19:33 PM
欲望不实现就痛苦，欲望实现了就无聊
失恋中:2009-03-18 9:41 AM
一语惊醒梦中人,太好了
KINO:2009-03-19 2:07 AM
这样的女人在我看来一点都不可爱，精明跟聪明是两码事。
Guest:2009-03-19 12:49 PM
10楼的，大概是北姑吧，怀着嫉妒之心来诋毁上海女人，你不要钱吗？你不爱美吗？大概两样你都没有资格来谈吧！被人踩在脚下的大多恶毒！
Tracy:2009-03-20 11:27 AM
楼上说的是9楼吧，不要指鹿为马。楼上的逻辑有问题，偷换了概念，把目的等同于手段了：要钱＝可以不择手段，爱美＝徒有虚表。大多数人都爱钱和爱美，9楼似乎没有否定这一点，他批判的是找钱和装美的手段。by the way，”被人踩在脚下的大多恶毒！”，是否可以从楼上得到印证呢
elijah:2009-03-22 2:05 AM
我才20多岁，这世界真D太残酷了
Guest:2009-03-22 19:11 PM
精辟 ！ 楼主已经退下了稚嫩的外衣 完完全全看懂了世界。不像有些人只看到美好。也不像有些人无限放大黑暗。
monicawa:2009-03-25 16:38 PM
写的多贴心…谁不是在歪七扭八地苦寻尽量让别人和自己都感觉舒服的生活方式…顶到死..
当然，至于修养方面的事得各位自己看着办，别乱扣帽子就成..
不然这世界可真灰了..
tynsa:2009-03-25 22:21 PM
现实生活中有太多的琐事
要让这些琐事成为生活中的添加剂
让自己更快乐的生活着
让自己爱的并爱自己的人和自己生活的更美好
nancy:2009-03-26 14:17 PM
写的有意思。好玩。
淡:2009-03-29 9:15 AM
42楼说的没错
对有些观点，抱着肯定的态度，很多事情都有不一样的结局。
Guest:2009-03-30 16:02 PM
三十才感悟这现实状况，晚了点。
感悟:2009-04-02 11:29 AM
文章确实非常精辟，从心理的角度来安慰和引导那些容易受伤的女人。但我个人认为保持良好的心态健康的身体最为重要，美容和健身也是缓解压力和改善心情的好方法！
发现:2009-04-02 19:00 PM
她说得很现实，不过这些是事实
Season:2009-04-03 11:38 AM
不喜欢这样的女人，一点不可爱
完全从物质方面分析生活了，精明得有点可怕
Sara:2009-04-09 17:16 PM
很积极的认生态度。
我相信任何“得到”的基础都是“付出”
让别人为你付出的前提是你“值得”
小幺:2009-05-18 8:59 AM
理解但不赞同，每个人有每个人的想法，只要快乐就好。
３０岁男人的告白:2009-05-24 7:55 AM
而立之年的我对生活还是充满了期待，因为现在的日子过的并不怎么好．汽车？有了！房子？有了！家庭？早有了．孩子？结婚前就有了．那还期待什么？多了，请听我慢慢细说．
人是一个多媒体，首先肉体欲望表现突出．自古先帝后宫３千，江山美女兼得，古有关公下棋刮骨，今有００７看ＡＶ取弹头．虽然性生活频繁，还能来点快感，但是目标不是唯一的，一部好的ＡＶ就可以让你的想法步入歧途．这世道证明一个不假的事实：你没出轨，只能说明你能力有限．你出轨了，会得到朋友间的赞赏和追捧．至于那些扒在墙头等红杏之人，那就算了把，小第我最看不起那种人了，有心无胆，一事无成，两个字：懦弱．在宪法还没有定出出轨罪之前，赶紧找个女人，在床上征服她，宣泄性的本能，不然她就是别人的了．那么如何征服一个女人呢？古往今来，黄书泛滥，你也许会啃书百篇，但是我建议看一部ＡＶ就够了，主演武藤蓝，乳波臀浪，欲生欲死．今曰：为人不识武藤蓝，看尽ＡＶ也枉然！那么哪里可以买到呢？该ＡＶ刚刚通过国际性研究中心一致认同许可销售，所以各大地摊均有销售．
笑笑:2009-05-28 9:51 AM
不错，支持！我是经历了很多磕磕碰碰最终发现世界果然如此。物欲横流的社会纯情只属于少女，女人三十依然纯情就是异类了。
悠然:2009-05-30 19:04 PM
精辟,很現實,有同感.我喜歡.
ryo:2009-06-04 19:58 PM
说到心坎去了！佩服···
Guest:2009-06-23 15:43 PM
很精辟，相对于绝大部分人来说很现实，每个人有每个人走过的脚印，只要自己感觉幸福快乐就行！
仰望幸福:2009-06-28 12:02 PM
看我的名字就知道是个傻女人，看了你的文章，转载了，掩卷深思、、、、、、最后，拍案而起，我要做回我自己，那个当年有个性的女子！谢谢。
仰望幸福:2009-06-30 19:05 PM
没懂得那么多时，我感觉到了幸福，知道了这么些道理却觉得幸福越来越远！
hfdjnhtf:2009-07-27 22:34 PM
我还是觉得提不错的！值得学习！
文:2009-07-30 21:33 PM
让我这个受伤的女人，瞬间醒悟过来
翌日菲菲:2009-08-01 16:05 PM
她是看到了人生的某些真相吧，自我保护也是为了生存，但感觉怎么那么累啊
liu芳:2009-08-06 11:05 AM
我也不懂，但我相信经验，没有必要逆行把生命浪费在体会这些无谓的意义了吧！好好学习，锻炼身体才是最应该做的，拥有健康的心态，才能有赢得幸福！
秋实:2009-08-26 17:42 PM
作为女人有一些同感，但是这也是一种现实，婚姻是人生的最想实现的也是最烦恼的旅途。生活还是要过的，烦还是有的，所以一切还是要面对的。
Guest:2009-11-14 19:23 PM
淋漓尽致的精明女人， 做女人就该如此。
猪:2009-12-05 21:10 PM
人与人千差万别，人生就像酿葡萄酒，不论天生是好葡萄还是坏葡萄，就尽力挖掘出所有潜力。
芬:2009-12-08 15:07 PM
看了真的感觉很实在，我也是三十女人，很多观点我都认同。如果还能加上一点点爱的能量就更棒了。
Guest:2009-12-26 15:39 PM
精辟，现实。部分内容我很赞同。可回头想想，作为一个女人，你就是长的再漂亮，事业再成功，有钱、有车、有房，可是没有一个爱你的人，没有一个让你值得付出、疼爱的老公，你的生活又有什么意义！
作为女人，不要只说三十岁，就是到了六十岁、八十岁，能有一个疼你、爱你，能陪伴你终老，在耳边会有一个你心中最帅的老头常常地盯着你，细细的品，偶尔说句“我老婆还是那么的美丽、真好看”。
也许你要笑道世界上会有那么忠诚的男人么？我要说的是有、一定有，就看你眼光问题，另外就是 你是怎么经营你与这个男人的感情的，。。。。。。
我不反对女人在乎容貌，因为女为悦己者容嘛、对于事业那是人生理想的问题，虽说现实社会很现实，但是人活一生，总是要有一些追求的吧，一个大的追求，。。。。。。用蜗居中海萍的一句话说就是：等你三十岁的时候能在自家床上和亲爱的老公一起睡 ，那才是一种最美的幸福.
前面说的话中，会有好多让辩方钻空的地方，我之所以说这些也没别的意思，我只是一个23的小妹，这些也只是我的个人见解，我觉得这个社会的人思想太。。。。。。。，回头也写点什么吧，我这个人从不喜欢公共场合发表意见的，只要不涉及我的个人利益！
Guest:2009-12-26 15:43 PM
补充一句：人生观不同而已！人各有志！活得舒心就好！
南运金:2010-01-24 1:54 AM
听着简直是一冷血女性，冷、狠、急、这样去看待人生还有意义和快乐吗？初生牛犊不怕虎你这也忒狂躁了吧！悠着点吧.
淡如水:2010-05-23 15:38 PM
不可否认作者是一个精明的女人,
她所说的全部都是生存法则.
有男人说他不喜欢这样的女人,太聪明和太精明是两码事
我想说的是这个男人是没有把握赢这个精明的女人
他不是她的对手
再者,这个女人心里想的,她若不在她伴侣面前表露半点她的精明
你们男人能看出来吗
你们男人谈何喜欢不喜欢
她若装的涉世未深
你们更会是被耍的团团转
一个女人的精明
是不需要表露出来的
淡如水:2010-05-23 15:40 PM
婚姻本来就是向下的抛物线
如果不是
请举出反例驳斥我的观点
女人三十一朵花:2010-09-28 13:55 PM
现实不好吗，让现实更现实，明明白白活着；；；放大快乐缩小忧伤，经营自己、经营家庭，经营孩子，给自己一个空间，做真实的自己！！！！！
viven:2010-10-23 14:43 PM
我中意一个评论者嘎一句话
凡是太尽 缘分势必早尽
生活不一定太耀眼，真实就好
小四:2010-11-26 10:41 AM
可惜我30临界了,之前我都不明白这些道理
Guest:2010-12-21 12:38 PM
我觉得楼主不是个快乐的人
我来说两句