by John Wesley
Self confidence is the difference between feeling unstoppable and feeling scared out of your wits. Your perception of yourself has an enormous impact on how others perceive you. Perception is reality 〞 the more self confidence you have, the more likely it is you＊ll succeed.
Although many of the factors affecting self confidence are beyond your control, there are a number of things you can consciously do to build self confidence. By using these 10 strategies you can get the mental edge you need to reach your potential.
1. Dress Sharp
Although clothes don＊t make the man, they certainly affect the way he feels about himself. No one is more conscious of your physical appearance than you are. When you don＊t look good, it changes the way you carry yourself and interact with other people. Use this to your advantage by taking care of your personal appearance. In most cases, significant improvements can be made by bathing and shaving frequently, wearing clean clothes, and being cognizant of the latest styles.
This doesn＊t mean you need to spend a lot on clothes. One great rule to follow is ※spend twice as much, buy half as much§. Rather than buying a bunch of cheap clothes, buy half as many select, high quality items. In long run this decreases spending because expensive clothes wear out less easily and stay in style longer than cheap clothes. Buying less also helps reduce the clutter in your closet.
2. Walk Faster
One of the easiest ways to tell how a person feels about herself is to examine her walk. Is it slow? tired? painful? Or is it energetic and purposeful? People with confidence walk quickly. They have places to go, people to see, and important work to do. Even if you aren＊t in a hurry, you can increase your self confidence by putting some pep in your step. Walking 25% faster will make to you look and feel more important.
3. Good Posture
Similarly, the way a person carries herself tells a story. People with slumped shoulders and lethargic movements display a lack of self confidence. They aren＊t enthusiastic about what they＊re doing and they don＊t consider themselves important. By practicing good posture, you＊ll automatically feel more confident. Stand up straight, keep your head up, and make eye contact. You＊ll make a positive impression on others and instantly feel more alert and empowered.
4. Personal Commercial
One of the best ways to build confidence is listening to a motivational speech. Unfortunately, opportunities to listen to a great speaker are few and far between. You can fill this need by creating a personal commercial. Write a 30-60 second speech that highlights your strengths and goals. Then recite it in front of the mirror aloud (or inside your head if you prefer) whenever you need a confidence boost.
5. Gratitude
When you focus too much on what you want, the mind creates reasons why you can＊t have it. This leads you to dwell on your weaknesses. The best way to avoid this is consciously focusing on gratitude. Set aside time each day to mentally list everything you have to be grateful for. Recall your past successes, unique skills, loving relationships, and positive momentum. You＊ll be amazed how much you have going for you and motivated to take that next step towards success.
6. Compliment other people
When we think negatively about ourselves, we often project that feeling on to others in the form of insults and gossip. To break this cycle of negativity, get in the habit of praising other people. Refuse to engage in backstabbing gossip and make an effort to compliment those around you. In the process, you＊ll become well liked and build self confidence. By looking for the best in others, you indirectly bring out the best in yourself.
7. Sit in the front row
In schools, offices, and public assemblies around the world, people constantly strive to sit at the back of the room. Most people prefer the back because they＊re afraid of being noticed. This reflects a lack of self confidence. By deciding to sit in the front row, you can get over this irrational fear and build your self confidence. You＊ll also be more visible to the important people talking from the front of the room.
8. Speak up
During group discussions many people never speak up because they＊re afraid that people will judge them for saying something stupid. This fear isn＊t really justified. Generally, people are much more accepting than we imagine. In fact most people are dealing with the exact same fears. By making an effort to speak up at least once in every group discussion, you＊ll become a better public speaker, more confident in your own thoughts, and recognized as a leader by your peers.
9. Work out
Along the same lines as personal appearance, physical fitness has a huge effect on self confidence. If you＊re out of shape, you＊ll feel insecure, unattractive, and less energetic. By working out, you improve your physcial appearance, energize yourself, and accomplish something positive. Having the discipline to work out not only makes you feel better, it creates positive momentum that you can build on the rest of the day.
10. Focus on contribution
Too often we get caught up in our own desires. We focus too much on ourselves and not enough on the needs of other people. If you stop thinking about yourself and concentrate on the contribution you＊re making to the rest of the world, you won＊t worry as much about you own flaws. This will increase self confidence and allow you to contribute with maximum efficiency. The more you contribute to the world the more you＊ll be rewarded with personal success and recognition.
佳: 我认为文章写的很好，上面的一些评论也很多都不错
我呢，...
直到永远: 我一定会在大2之前找到自信，谢谢作者给我一个盖造我自己的机会...
恢复中的人: 我很喜欢这个网站，培养适度的自信，过和不及都是错误的
Yuki: 在杂志上看过另一篇关于如何建立自信的文章，那篇文章说，自新的...
冰点: 这只是理论知识,我们只有在实践中慢慢体会,才能做到一个自信的...
小晖晖: 自2010年开始，我小晖晖将在以后的每时每刻都自信着！......
wangami: 自信首先来自于个人内心的平衡，楼上的朋友也有提到有时超自信，...
deyizi:2008-05-31 11:06 AM
自信就是，当其他人随便怀疑你所做的决定的时候，请你坚决坚持自己的想法，并付诸行动。
Guest:2008-06-04 10:50 AM
fgfrr
Guest:2008-06-04 10:50 AM
jia you!!!
Guest:2008-06-04 17:21 PM
自信，加油
Guest:2008-06-09 11:41 AM
自信是成功的基础，我一定要自信起来！！！
苹果仔:2008-06-20 1:02 AM
自信,COME ON!!
天涯客:2008-07-13 13:03 PM
怕别人评价自己的不好，也把自己要求的太高。很在意自己在他人眼里的形象。越是这样越不自信。真是太累了。希望，不是希望。我一定要相信自己。我就是我，喜不喜欢我那是你的事。我喜欢自己就好了。
fuck:2008-08-05 21:34 PM
8cuo
Guest:2008-08-28 17:13 PM
confidentness!
latwinter:2008-09-09 15:15 PM
确实是这样的！希望更多的人相信自己心中的那个自己，而不是随别人应和……
深夜:2008-09-18 0:31 AM
自信首先要自己肯定自己
一江秋水:2008-09-21 22:07 PM
自信确实太重要了，我也是一个不善于在人多场合讲话，看孓这篇文章我自信了许多，我相信我会成功的！
我很喜欢这个网站，培养适度的自信，过和不及都是错误的
Guest:2008-10-25 18:47 PM
貌似很多人在心里都不自信，只不过别人从外表都看不出来，即使看起来非常自信的人。
柠83琪:2008-10-26 11:53 AM
自信的第一步就是要学会欺骗自己
utility:2008-11-01 21:24 PM
几年来，我想自信但自信离我越来越远，远到自己也不知道每天再干什么。我觉得我对不起我的家人，
坚坚:2008-11-18 14:31 PM
其实，如果那个人的不自信源于小时候的家庭分裂受的伤害呢？会在很多方面尤其婚姻方面特别的不自信….
ruizhi-z:2008-11-24 11:25 AM
有时候建议自信需要一个环境个外在的驱动力吧
sky:2008-11-24 12:21 PM
学习中。。。找到最适合自己的方法才是最好的方法！
黑子允允:2008-12-06 15:45 PM
大家说的都很有道理，的确自信是一种品质，一种美丽，大家加油哦，相信会改变
凌空飞翔:2009-01-18 14:35 PM
天啊！可是我被说成骄傲啊！
nh:2009-02-09 14:22 PM
自信 我要找到你！
跟随，风……:2009-02-09 21:42 PM
这篇文章还不错，以前我也看过类似的文章，里面也提到过相同的建立自信的几点，比如说：快步走路，坐在头排，大声说话什么的。其实我觉得建立自信还有另外一点就是记住每天自己的微小进步，要记在本子上，当你缺乏自信时可以拿出来看一下，大家也可以试试！
漫蝶:2009-02-22 18:25 PM
自信是成功的前提.不管你选择了什么,都要带着自信陪你一起走下去…相信自己我能行…..
琅琊:2009-03-12 15:31 PM
多让别人夸奖自己，哪怕是微不足道的进步
多把自己美好的一面展示在别人面前，可能是一种爱现，但是也是自信的一部分
不满:2009-04-03 23:00 PM
是不是真的有用？我是过没用
来点实际的
一招制敌的
试着说爱自己:2009-05-07 3:07 AM
我觉得这个真的真的很好，至少对我来说很有启发，
【不满】没有什么是一招就可以找到自信的，其实说实际的就只有 我们自己本人才能找到它慢慢培养
每个人都在找自信，我们可以试着闭上眼睛对自己说我爱你，然后发自内心笑一笑，抱抱自己。。。
每天出门前对自己说加油 加油 我能行之后发自内心笑一笑。
把自信当做自己的朋友，试着去和它交流。。。。人是为自己活着的 所以把那些烦恼放下，不要想别人对你是什么态度，，，，，，其实我和这里的大多数一样一小时之前也那样】
看过这里每个人的留言我悟出来了·每个人都在找它 所以我梦就把它当做我们的朋友，给他起个自己知道的名字，以后它没了的时候容易找回来
【自信我的朋友，我爱你】
相信自己，加油 加油 加油O(∩_∩)O哈哈~心情保持快乐的，时常笑笑没坏处！
O(∩_∩)O哈哈~O(∩_∩)O哈哈~大家一起加油啊！！！相信自己，请你们相信你们自己~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~我一定加油【先找个工作】
健康会帮你:2009-05-14 2:01 AM
做一个健康的人，不光有一个健康的身体，还要有一个健康
really:2009-05-14 15:35 PM
每个人都会有不自信的时候的，总之，就是自己的事要自己趁早解决咯，早点摆脱自卑，让我们都加油~去过幸福开心的日子。
长不大:2009-06-08 16:32 PM
我就不自信 我看了太有启发了 我一定要好好努力 自信 等着我 我要朝你大步的走 世界多么的美好 我必须要自信 祝福我吧
我有什么可怕的:2009-06-18 13:46 PM
我怎看不懂啊，我要自信，在也不抛弃了
伟伟:2009-07-10 12:45 PM
不错 对我启示很大~！~！~~~！！！
人生没有失败:2009-07-25 22:44 PM
信心是人生成功与幸福的催化剂，是非常重要的。有个简单方法，可以使人建立自信，就要要学会自我暗示：“自我肯定自己，我一定行，我一定能，失败不过是成功的梯子，不要害怕失败，我很优秀，多看看你的优点，你说你们在这方面有我厉害吗？”等一些激励自己的话，总之脑子里想的都是正面积极的自己。世上最大的困难就是战胜自己，连自己都驯服了，那你还有哪方面做不到呢。所以多肯定自己，不要怀疑自己。早上和睡觉前都坚持大声说出自己积极的话，坚持久了，你就很自信了，你面对别人时肯定是自我肯定，而不是自我怀疑。
呵呵，相信我的话，你就去试吧，至少我目前很自信。而且明白很多问题都是你的心理在做怪，而不是你的能力。
守望者:2009-08-06 1:15 AM
假的说一千遍就成真了，要自信先得不断重复对自己说：你是最棒的！哪怕一开始知道这有点假，不断暗示自己，不断从不同的方面看到积极的因素，获取前进的力量，凡事皆正面，能量永不限，我要无可救药的乐观也不要无可救药的自我！
美美:2009-08-29 15:24 PM
大家说的都很有道理、但是对于一个没有自信的朋友来说，做起来真的很难。
做自信的自己。:2009-10-08 17:25 PM
自信就是相信 自信很简单。自己可以把他踩在脚底，做越来越自信的自己。每天自信一点点。如果哪个有吸烟的朋友，建意你从戒烟开始，再找回自信。这是我的一点心德。在心里认为，只要自己再吸烟就再也找不回自信了，那么从这点入手。我想会是个很不错的建意。现在的我也很糟糕，以前的我神采飞扬。经过事业挫折后进入了人生低谷，慢慢的变的不再自信，越来越颓废。 半月前，我从混顿中如梦初醒，我不能再这样了。我要恢复以前的自信的自己，正所谓混顿开基，我一定会走出自己人生的低谷，重新找回自信。一定要有恒心。要有一种不成功变成仁的气魄!我相信自己，我一定能做到，一定能！一定能！！ （当我打下这些字的时候我的泪水再也忍不住流下来，我竟然浑浑噩噩过了一年，以前的我去哪了。以前那种天高任鹰翔的广阔胸襟去哪了？以前那种超凡脱俗的自信去哪了？我一定会再一次复活，经过这次再也没有什么可以打倒我了！我把这当成人生的最后一场战役！复活便成神！我的智慧啊请你回来吧！不能再被魔鬼控制了！复活吧！我的心！） 真心祝那些如我一样的朋友做到越来越自信！
mimang:2009-10-22 21:59 PM
我和楼上那兄弟的状况差不多把！！！看了你的真是茅塞顿开啊！！让我们共同努力把！！！！
飞翔:2009-12-10 11:15 AM
我看了收获不小，以前我也做到了一些，还不到位，以后要继续努力，并且坚持下去
丽丽:2009-12-11 19:23 PM
可是如果确实人事上、事业上都没有能力，还谈何自信呢。我的困惑就在这里，总觉得处处都不如人，生命还年轻，可是希望却渺茫，没有能力是不是注定要一无所有了呢
Guest:2009-12-25 10:54 AM
因为生活所迫,从有自信到没有自信,很痛苦呀,人生就象在一直建立自信自信遭到打击再建立自信的过程
冰岛番茄:2009-12-26 13:11 PM
和墨箫 有同感
双鱼:2010-01-02 0:46 AM
克服以前事事非非造成的心里障碍，做一个自己想做的做人标准
冰封物语:2010-01-25 15:17 PM
自信 自信 我要学着自信
未知未来:2010-02-05 13:12 PM
我们大家一起加油！ 我现在在做一个
价格经济:2010-02-15 16:24 PM
看了大家点评，我受益匪浅，自信要发自内心，让这种找回自信的法永远在我们心中
自2010年开始，我小晖晖将在以后的每时每刻都自信着！…沉着着！…
颖:2010-02-19 8:31 AM
自己都不相信自己，要别人怎么相信你，要是那样的话，还不如自杀了！所以，一定要相信自己呀！！！没有失败那会有成功！加油哦！想和我祥聊的话，加我779387728
wen:2010-02-25 17:38 PM
虽然相信。。还是很怕。。
希望真的做到吧。。
美雨林:2010-03-02 14:19 PM
我试着去寻找他把～自信
我一定会在大2之前找到自信，谢谢作者给我一个盖造我自己的机会，谢谢你，大家都要加油啊，相信自己我们自己，也许我们在改造自己的过程中失去很多但是我们会变成一个新的自我
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