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有关相亲的心理调查结论

相亲算不算美丽的邂逅?或者只是不人道和势利的落后方式?您可能不知道:无...
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有关相亲的心理调查结论

相亲算不算美丽的邂逅?或者只是不人道和势利的落后方式?您可能不知道:无论书面资料有多“般配”,多数人在见面几秒钟之后就决定不再交往,并且女性做出决定的时间更短。人们不是依照书面资料来判断,而是受到直觉的驱使;从看到对方第一眼到形成判断,全程不过3秒左右,还来不及用金钱、权力等“势利”因素做衡量,所以,千万不要放弃让直觉做出判断的机会。另外,Psytopic提醒男性网友,如果想在这3秒钟内获得女性芳心,除了要准备好精彩的开场白,外表稳重、亮丽一些也非常重要。-psytopic.com

相亲是人类情感中,最复杂、最难表达和解释的一种。除了每个人的性格不同,也因为它的隐秘和复杂,相亲给这种复杂的情感之间凿开了一个通道。相亲的目的性强,导致相亲的第一眼多半会失败。一个人的才华在很短的时间内是不可能完全展现的,因此多一点时间与对方相处,是给他人一个机会,也是给自己的一次机会。在时间的长河里,没有早一步,也没有晚一步,刚巧赶上了的爱情少之又少。

很多人以为,相亲是很落后的恋爱方式,在产生感情之前就不断衡量对方家庭背景、生活状况,是种“不人道”、“太势利”的做法。因此,很多年轻人在父母亲友的“撮合”下相亲时,总对对方挑三拣四,不愿深交。

当爱情没有以最好的方式产生时,借助外力的因素寻找,也不失为一个途径。就像有句放之四海皆准的话:“条条道路通罗马”,对于爱情的幸福也一样,无论是你选择哪种方式,能找到自己的幸福是真正的目的。相亲,也只是其中的一个方式而已。用“邂逅”恋爱;用“相亲”结婚也许是一种比较理智的生活状态。

只是,相亲算不算一次美丽的邂逅呢?我想,每个人都会有自己的领悟。浪漫的邂逅、一见钟情的爱情,人人都曾憧憬,并不是每个人都能遇到。当爱情姗姗来迟时,与其一个人苦苦寻觅,不如借助更多其他的途径寻找。相亲,用传统的方式,演绎着现代的爱情,也许会比自由恋爱少了一点浪漫,但一种形式自会有它的美好。相亲过程中,会不会有爱情并最终走向婚姻,并不重要。以好的心态对待自己的生活,每一刻都会是崭新的。快乐、和谐、幸福的生活,是每一个人心中的理想。幸福,就握在你自己的手中。

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美国宾夕法尼亚大学心理学家在《进化与人类行为》杂志上发表论文指出:

相亲其实很重要

研究人员是通过一家专业红娘公司进行这项研究的。他们发现,红娘公司在安排相亲者见面前,通常已经详细比对了两人心目中“另一半”的理想状况和现实情况,认为他们般配后,才会做出安排相亲的决定。但无论书面资料有多“般配”,多数人在见面几秒钟之后就决定不再交往,并且女性做出决定的时间更短。

主持这一研究的宾夕法尼亚大学助理教授库尔班分析认为,相亲并不是“游戏人间”。在“快速约会”中,人们不是依照书面资料来判断,而是受到直觉驱使。他们从看到对方第一眼到形成判断,全程不过3秒左右,还来不及用金钱、权力等“势利”因素做衡量。所以,千万不要放弃让直觉做出判断的机会。

研究人员还给准备相亲的人提了点建议,因为他们发现,尽管人们一向认为,男性挑选伴侣时更关注女方的外貌,但实验结果却正好相反,在要求参加测试者对约会对象进行魅力评分时,女性对于外表的要求竟然比男性更苛刻。这就意味着,男性如果想在3秒钟内获得女性芳心,除了要准备好精彩的开场白,外表稳重、亮丽一些也非常重要。Psytopic.com

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The psychological findings about intimate

Intimate encounter count as beautiful? Or just behind the inhuman and snobbish way? You may not know: whether the information in writing how "good fit", most people after a few seconds at the meeting decided not to contact, and women make the decision less time. It does not follow the written information to judge, but by intuition driven; from seeing each other at first sight to form judgments about 3 seconds the whole, however, had a chance to use money, power and other "snobbish" factors that measure, therefore, do not give up the opportunity to make judgments intuitively. In addition, Psytopic remind male friends, if you want to within 3 seconds in the women's affection, in addition to prepared wonderful opening, looks dignified, beautiful number is also very important. -Psytopic.com

Intimate human emotions, the most complex and most difficult to express and explain a. Each person's personality is different, because it's hidden and complex, intimate feeling to this complex has a Tongdao between the find Kai. The purpose of blind date is strong, leading to intimate the first thing most will fail. One's talent in a very short period of time can not fully show, so more time to get along with each other, is to give others a chance, but also an opportunity to own. In the long river of time, neither earlier nor later step, when they get a few love.

Many people think that, loving is a very backward way of love, in the production of continuously measuring each other before the emotions of family background, living conditions, is the kind of "inhuman", "very snobbish" approach. Therefore, many young people their parents and friends of the "match" the next blind date, the total of the other side pick and choose, do not want very good friend.

When love is not the best way to produce when factors outside help to find, would be a way. As the saying fits-all words: "All roads lead to Rome", for the happiness of love, like, no matter which way you choose, can find their own happiness is the real purpose. Blind date, only one of the ways. With the "encounter" love; with "dear" marriage may be a more rational state of life.

But, dear count it a beautiful encounter? I think everyone has their own insights. Romance, love at first sight, all have hopes, not everyone can experience. When the late love when people struggle to find their one, as with many other ways to search. To each other using traditional methods, modern interpretation of love, perhaps too little free love than romantic, but a form of it since there will be good. Blind date, there would be no end to love and marriage, is not important. With a good attitude towards their lives, every moment will be the new. Happy, harmonious and happy life, is his ideal of everyone. Well, you hold in your own hands.

University of Pennsylvania psychologist in "Evolution and Human Behavior," journal paper that the blind date is very important.

Researchers through a professional matchmaker company to undertake this study. They found that blind date matchmaker who arranged to meet in front, often has more in mind than on the two "other half" of the ideal situation and reality that they are well matched, the will to make a blind decision. But no matter how the information in writing "good fit", most people in the meeting decided not to after a few seconds contact, and women make the decision less time.

University of Pennsylvania hosted the study, assistant professor of Kurban analysis, blind date is not a "game world." In the "speed dating", people are not judged according to written information, but driven by instinct. They see each other at first sight to form judgments about 3 seconds the whole, however, had a chance to use money, power and other "snobbish" factors that measure. So, do not give up the opportunity to make judgments intuitively.

The researchers returned to the blind date who prepare suggestions raised, because they found that although people always think that when the male partner is more concerned about the selection of woman's appearance, but the result was the opposite, in the test were asked to participate in attractive rates on the date object women are the requirements for the appearance of even more stringent than men. This means that men in three seconds if you want to be female affection, in addition to prepared wonderful opening, looks dignified, beautiful number is also very important.



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  1. 亿左:2010-08-27 11:05 AM

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    不是吧。怪不得,我姐相了十多次,没一次中的呀。

  2. roger:2010-08-29 21:26 PM

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    首印效应

  3. maggie:2011-01-26 11:28 AM

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    相亲是无能的表现,想通过这样的一个方式来解决婚姻(物质多于爱情),很落后,见面先了解对方的工作,对方的家庭,感觉是警察,不知道是想找爱的人,还是想要做什么,在美国,男女认识了解的是爱好和兴趣,随着交往,慢慢了解其他的细节,关键自己有没有长大,真正的长大,做一个大人,不是孩子

  4. Guest:2011-03-03 23:47 PM

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    如果是适合你的那一个,无论是怎样结识的,都没有必要太拘泥了。。。

  5. 蓝色的梦:2011-04-06 17:22 PM

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    哎……

  6. Guest:2011-10-18 21:10 PM

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    而对于有好感的需要更多的时间才会知道是不是自己所爱的。

  7. 如果有一见钟情:2011-10-18 21:12 PM

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    对于一个自己不喜欢的人只需1秒即可判断,而对于有好感的需要更多的时间才会知道是不是自己所爱的

  8. 面酱:2011-10-31 22:56 PM

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    还是相信缘分吧

  9. 爱自己 爱它人就是爱生活:2011-12-11 19:12 PM

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    平常生活中要对人对事都得有让和和气心理,哪能对得起你的人生,在以后上想想你的人是怎样过来的,你的以后怎样多样

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