Imaginary, a false impression by their enlarged

Who allowed a stranger fortune, but can not tolerate the promotion of a close person. Because the same level of contrast between the existence of, conflict of interest, but not with strangers this problem does not exist. Life, some people are always consciously or unconsciously set himself an "imaginary enemy", and this may be a friend, rival, colleague, or even parents. The so-called "imaginary enemy" is non-existent enemy, but inside a dummy opponent, but will spend a great deal of mental energy fighting with the opponents and inadvertently put this "struggle" mentality into the real life, affecting their lives. This is a users should Psytopic "Grace and" chose this topic of the article, if you have suggested psychological topic, please write to us. -Psytopic.com

Yu Dan said: "The people allow a stranger's fortune, but can not tolerate the promotion of a close person. Because the same level of contrast that exists between people, conflict of interest, but not with strangers this problem does not exist."

Yu in "My four imaginary enemy", wrote:
"My four imaginary enemies, high or short, fat or thin, is a medical student or a school paper, sooner or later, the mists of doubts and fears from my show prototype, 11 came forward, or twists and turns, softly and its words, or straight to the point, brazenly, refusing to his lover, that is my daughter, I'm sorry, from collar to. invisible enemy is terrible, not to mention I am in the light, he covertly, but also my family's "traitor" Cohesion, really hard to detect. can only blame the four daughters had not frozen in time, so time is not abduction, society nor by the pollution. Now they're all grown up, turning back. my four imaginary enemies, the four stealthy underground workers, also have full-fledged, what force could stop them. pre-emptive, this, that those four imaginary enemies still in swaddling clothes when they should be addressed. at least the United States Poet Nash (Ogden Nash ,1902-1971) to tell us so. "

Both are in school or in the workplace, we often will see that some of the people, in the eyes of outsiders, they may be very good, but their high demand, Que Shi Yi Zhi in their search for Duishou, full of the psychological state of alert being. So they are always very natural to the environment in every possible "opponents" are as "putative enemy." Over time, they seem to feel themselves to be the "enemy" thrust the run, a bit of a pause, it may be exceeded, and fun. Intensified competition, so that they fall deeply into the imaginary enemy of the imagination, if faced with failure, as if everyone is laughing at himself, and the tragedy of life, just hidden in one moment.

In the workplace, often they will see that some people, their work has made some achievements, but they always feel that some of the criticism of his colleagues in the back. So, they have these colleagues as their "enemy", no matter what, and colleagues Biyi Bi wants to prove himself. Over time, they found themselves being the "enemy" thrust the run, a bit of a pause, it may be exceeded, and fun.

In fact, probably many people who are in the workplace have experienced similar problems. Colleagues will inevitably exist between the competition and interest, the more eccentric, self-assuredness lofty, poor co-operation of people most likely to be easily put some relatively good, and their colleagues fairly level, as rivals. In the final analysis, "imaginary enemy" is the root of existence of competition, and competition of the psychological defense mechanism.

These people believe that his colleagues and competition, always have to wait for opportunity to go beyond ourselves, this may be true. However, this is more likely to be amplified by his own illusion, is the projection of his inner world. The reason why people set up "imaginary enemy", in fact, the lack of confidence, the real enemy is not other people, just be yourself. Such people are generally very difficult to accept their shadow side, it is difficult to accept other people better than you. If the heart to establish a long-term "imaginary" mental and physical energy consumption will eventually destroy morale and hinder personal development. Over time, work will become worse.

If you are busy and the "imaginary enemy" rivalry, click on the debug state of mind. Do not always find someone to compete, nor should their failure attributed to him in the innocent colleagues. To know "imaginary enemy" and there may be a reminder of your work to him as a friend, than when the enemy is more conducive to personal growth and work progress.

Missed the story and well-being

This is a very old-fashioned story, but different locations at different times, constantly played out.

He liked her, a perfect girl, but has been afraid to tell the truth, since the understanding of the future, occasional contacts. He always seemed very natural. He felt very old fashioned, very clumsy. He felt good enough for her, he convinced a lot of people chasing her, and everyone stronger than himself, though the eyes of many, he is actually a very nice guy.

She graduated, in a newspaper. Once, they held a magazine in the forum met, he found her more beautiful. After the forum ended, she stood up and walked to his side, offered to walk with him, but his confusion has found a ridiculous excuse, his life slipped hastily.

Then there are many opportunities for contact, but he never thought about go for her. He always thought she was too good, and chasing her must have been very good, did not have advantages, and its been refused, through some unnecessary grief, not as to the kind of love her buried in the bottom of my heart, body deflected.

With age, he began to understand that she is not a fairy, nor angels, no matter how good she was, she remains an ordinary, with extraordinary mental woman. So one day, he the courage to ask her to the bar, chatting, asked: "Are you still free body?" She calmly told him, just got married two months ago, she registered.

Frustration and loss are inevitable. But he still believes, she chose the people certainly are better than him, than he was capable, handsome than him, than he liked her.

One day we meet again. He was surprised to find that person simply did not he thought it "wonderful", in front of the chubby guy is so common, ordinary to the point where almost disappointing. This time he began to be understood: he was himself out of nothing "powerful enemy of the" scare.

He produced a painful sensation of being looted.

But he also found that individuals who have a thing he does not have, something that can be called "natural self-confidence": not so much indecisive, not so much the possession of the first tails. It was a man of confidence. Original self-confidence can make one of the most extraordinary people to become exciting, vivid.
Happiness never be plundered by others, unless you first denied the right to pursue. We always thought that goal unattainable, always thought the tall mighty opponents, so their early, then surrendered. In fact, almost every one of your "enemy" do not like you. Real enemies are always yourself, deep inside their own cowardice and weakness.

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