How and the people around to maintain appropriate
Distance?

Both want to "living myself", "afraid
Harm to other people "do not want to in and around the
Lost contact person; in the workplace often
Chang and others do not know how to maintain a
What kinds of relations, far from the
Feel alien to another, it is
Alienation; too close to another that I do not know
Road, how to refuse to others, free table
Up to their own needs and feelings
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Such distress, trying to do a very
Psychological counseling several times, always just done
Psychology can be more relaxed, and then had paragraph
Into a period of time but it is a quagmire
China, unable to extricate themselves. Can you give llnn
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I am 87 years, female, now a senior
Graduate faster, but I feel like
Even still adolescent, confused, trapped
Confusion. I puzzled for a long time for a long time, large
I feel some of his sophomore year on social
Such as the psychological fear of forced, from the perspective of
Three family members began to find someone to get to school
A minister to me to do, began to
Forced their contacts with people, but also
Since then, the confusion continued, the situation
Ogata ups and downs, it is difficult to subject. I
Schools have done a lot of time counseling
Consultation, but can always just done the psychological
The lighter and then over time their own
Also caught in a quagmire, unable to
Stubbs. Recently, people do not want to pay very
Flow, the words of others I have inadvertently
Will feel hurt. But sometimes
Want to exchange with others, but each
Have put a bad mentality to迷迷糊糊
It will be for others to find their own very
Depression, regardless of how the atmosphere around
Mody cheerful. I am really good hard to find
Less than their own. Tried many ways
Would like to save their own, but that is only solution
Some superficial problems, and sometimes even more
越想越remote did not even feel alive
Significance of the point where you ...

A child born in the rural areas, there is a
A brother, one-year-old to 5-year-old milk and Grandpa
Milk live, 5-year-old graduated from high school in the county
City living study. Alone in the county high school
City school. Parents of junior high school graduates to move
To urban living. Childhood low self-esteem, grief
Concept, there is no sense of security felt
Ignored by the bully. Parents often
Quarrel, until recent years I have
Feel that they cherish each other. Childhood
Father to go out to do business, the mother of
Grid frank, what temper directly
Comes. Mother was afraid of a child
The pro-verbal abuse, often bullied by his brother.
People around that I was a kid很懂
Matter and less so at home down the heart, but learning
The matter has been dissatisfied with me, often take
I compare with others. I was trying very hard
However, how results are not improved. To
The three when to increase the number,
To achieve the requirements of parents. High school for three years
Although parents are not around me, but I
Still force myself to study, pay close attention to each
One every second, there is no study so
There will be a strong psychological guilt. Several
Even do not have much after-school activities, but also
Fewer exchanges with people, only a few good friends
Friends.

I always ask a person their own
Title nameless to cry sometimes. Because
For each exchange with others to solve non -
The fundamental problem, so he is very
Hard to want to find their own problems
Where the root causes, but always
The more confused the more to find. Seen a lot of psychological
School books, but also from your network
Station to go to school a lot of knowledge, but I
Or hard, can not find their own.
I have been confused for a long time for a long time, from
St. Paul began almost迷迷糊糊
Overnight. Especially from the senior open
Before, had always wanted to have their first好痛.
A lot of long faces Peas, to now
Longer kept in the. In school psychology
Consultation, the teacher encouraged me to psychological
Ideas with their parents, I do not have with them
Said. They explained to me that they
Say that they love me, just before
Education is not very appropriate, but
But also to me. Said at the time to cry
For a long time, but every time to go home to see
Brother and mother will still be some non-self -
However, some bad. Can not really light
Exchanges with their song, and occasionally say a
Some surface, then feel themselves
False.

I went to the last stage of a poor home
Little more than an hour's drive of the hotel
Internships, there is also chose
Want to leave home because of their good one
Sort out good ideas, but I still would like to
Unclear. Very susceptible to other people shadow
Ring, easily injured, that their sudden
However, if a child, unable to control
Themselves.好想sometimes love,
Around to see some of the more outstanding differences
I will be better of nature, shy,
And they dare not, as so on. But
Subconsciously we feel that it is not the real
Love, I do not know
Like them, but I
Difficult by the solitude, I hope to be comforted
And love it, do not really love other
Contacts with others who may be on to others
Is also a kind of harm, it is always controlled
System itself, not with them more exchanges,
I am afraid I will lose myself, I fear
The "love" on the other side. Now also allow
Easily into a confused state, like class I
回宿舍wanted to sleep a day, in addition to
Work is to go to bed, will be very greedy,
I see the good things I would eat
He is very up to date. Feel
It is contradictory impulses Sense & Sensibility
A period of confusion. Recent
A course, which told me the symptoms of
The like:

□ your relationships
Have a strong sense of powerlessness?
□ you both want to "live from
Others ", but" are afraid that harm other people ", but also
Do not want to lose the connection around?
□ others you are angry, angry
And other strong emotions do not know how to
Expression? Both are victims of fear of hurting others
Fear of harm to themselves?
□ You often suppressed in daily life since
The needs of others, emotional, real wish
Law and to get along with others, to please others?
The results are often so you can feel
Wronged?
□ in your work, it often
And others do not know how to maintain a
What is the relationship? Far from the
They feel out of tune, it is sparse
From? Too close to another that do not know
How to refuse to others, freedom of expression
Their own needs and feelings?

The course is called the effective boundaries,
In Shenzhen, said, a bit far from my house.
Originally, the impulse is to learn, but
That may have no fundamental effect
Fruit, but also the more expensive the price is not
The nerve to find the parents for money spent in this
They think that there is no need for more things
Up ...
I really do not know how to do
A, tired tired ... ...

I am sorry to disturb you so long
Time to read my text. If the time
So, hope you'll give me points, Italy
See. Thank you!


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