俗话说,人不可貌相。这句话也可以这么理解:看人,大多数情况下是要貌相的。今天Psytopic推荐的这篇文章,是关于“如何以貌取人”的经验分享:爱吃东西的人,多数不是什么坏人;说话时只见口中下面的一排牙齿,这种人也多数不可靠;一眼看上去像一个猪头,这种人不一定坏,但大有可能是愚蠢的、怕事和不负责任的;样子普通,但有股灵气的女人,最值得爱。到底怎样才能学会看人?先学会看自己。-psytopic.com
人活到老了,就学会看人。
看人是一种本事,是累积下来的经验,错不了的。
古人说:人不可貌相。我却说:人绝对可以貌相,我是一个绝对以貌取人的人。
相貌也不单是外表,是配合了眼神和谈吐,以及许多小动作而成。这一来,看人更加准确。
獐头鼠目的人,好不到哪里去,和你谈话时偷偷瞄你一眼,心里不知打什么坏主意,这些人要避开,愈远愈好。
大老板身边有一群人,嬉皮笑脸地拍马屁,这些人的知识不会高到哪里去。虽然说要保得住饭碗,也不必做到这种地步,能当得上老板的人,还不都是聪明人?他们心中有数,对这群来讨好自己的,虽不讨厌,但是心中不信任,是必然的事。
说教式地把一件不愉快的事重复又重复,是生活刻板的人,做人消极的人,这种人尽量少和他们交谈,要不然你的精力会被他们吸光。
年轻时不懂,遇到上述这些人就马上和他们对抗,给他们脸色看,誓不两立,结果是给他们害惨。现在学会对付,笑脸迎之,或当透明,望到他们背后的东西,但心中还是一百个看不起。
美丑不是一个很大的关键。
我遇到很多美女,和她们谈上一个小时,即刻知道她们的妈妈喜欢些什么、用什么化妆品、爱驾什么车。她们的一生,好像都浓缩在这短短的一小时内,再聊下去,也没有什么话题。当然,在某种情形之下,你不需要很多话题。
丑人多作怪是不可以原谅的。几乎所有的三八婆都是这一个典型。和她们为伍,自己总会变成一个,一字曰八,总之总之,碰不得也。
愁眉深锁的女人,说什么也讨不到她们的欢心,不管多美,也极为危险,这些人多数有自杀倾向,最怕是有这个念头时,拉你一块走。
这种女人送给我,我也不要。现实生活中也会遇到的,像林黛玉和乐蒂等人,都是遗传基因使她们不快乐。
大笑姑婆很好,她们少了一根筋,忧愁一下子忘记,很可爱的。不过多数是二奶命,二奶又有什么不好?她们大笑一番,愉快地接受了。
爱吃东西的人,多数不是什么坏人。他们拼命追求美食,没有时间去害人。大笑姑婆兼馋嘴,是完美的结合,这种女人多多益善。
样子普通,但有股灵气的女人,最值得爱。什么叫有灵气?看她们的眼睛就知道,你一说话,她们的口还没有张开之前,眼睛已动,眼睛告诉你她们赞不赞成。即使她们不同意你的看法,也不会和你争辩,因为,她们知道,世界上要有各种意见,才有趣。
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我们以前选新人,六七十年代中一部片就是上千个,有谁能当上女主角,全靠她们的一双眼睛,有的长得很美,但双眼呆滞,没有焦点,这种女人怎么教,都教不会演一个小角色。
自命不凡,高姿态出现的女强人最令人讨厌――她当身边的人都是白痴,只有自己一个才是最精的。这种女人不管美丑,多数男人都不会去碰她们。从她们脸上可以看出荷尔蒙的失调。
“我还很年轻,要怎么样才学会看人?”小朋友常这么问我。
要学会看人,先学会看自己。
本人一定要保存一份天真。
像婴儿一样,瞪着眼睛看人,最直接了。
沉默最好,学习过程之中,牢牢记住就是,不要发表任何意见,否则即刻露出自己无知的马脚。
注视对方的眼睛,当他们避开你的视线时,毛病就看得出来了。
也不是绝对地不出声。将学到的和一位你信得过的长辈商讨,问他们自己的看法对与不对。长辈的说法你不一定赞同,可以追问,但不能反驳,否则人家嫌你烦,就不教你。
慢慢地,你就学会看人了,之中你一定会受到种种的创伤,当成交学费,不必自怨自艾。
两边腮骨突出来的,所谓的反腮,是危险的人,把你吃光了骨头也不吐出来。以前我不相信,后来看得多,综合起来,发现比例上坏的实在占多。
说话时只见口中下面的一排牙齿,这种人也多数不可靠。
一眼看上去像一个猪头,这种人不一定坏,但大有可能是愚蠢的、怕事的、不负责任的。
从不见笑容,眼睛像兀鹰一样的,阴险得很,德国的希特勒,就是例子。
什么时候学会看人,年纪大了自然懂得。当你毕业时,照照镜子,看到一只老狐狸。
我就是一个例子。
Psytopic推荐自《蔡澜这个人》,作者:蔡澜
How know someone by looks
As the saying goes, not judge a book by. This can also be so understood: man, in most cases is to profiling. Psytopic Recommend this article is about "How to know someone by looks" experience to share: favorite things, people, the majority is not bad; speak only to the population below a row of teeth, which are most unreliable person; a glance up like a pig, which is not necessarily bad people, but are probably very foolish, timid and irresponsible; look ordinary, but the woman has shares Aura, the most worthy of love. How can we learn to look in the end? First learn to watch themselves. -psytopic.com
People live to be old, learned man.
Man is a skill, and experience are accumulated, can not mistake.
The ancients said: not judge a book by. I said: profiling people can, I am a person of absolute know someone by looks.
Looks is not just appearance, is in line with the look and style of conversation, as well as from many little tricks. The years, more accurate look.
獐头鼠目the people, where less than a good go, and you talk a sneak preview you heart beat I do not know what bad idea, these people want to avoid, the more distant the better.
There is a group of big boss people around,嬉皮笑脸and flattering, the knowledge of these people will not go high. Although the stand to keep their jobs, there is no need to do this stage, can become a boss on the people, not all smart people? They do have an idea to please this group of their own, not hate, but of no confidence in the hearts, is inevitable.
Preaching style to put an unhappy event repeated again and again, people are living the stereotype, being a negative person, the person to talk to them as little as possible, otherwise you will be their energy absorption.
When he was young, do not encounter these people immediately, and their confrontation, and to watch their face, irreconcilable blood feud, resulting in harm to them are miserable. Learn to deal with now, smiling face of welcome, or transparent, waiting till they are behind, but the hearts of or look down on 100.
Beauty is not a lot of the key.
I met a lot of beautiful women, and their one-hour talk on, they instantly know what the mother likes, what cosmetics, what love driving cars. Their life, if all concentrated in this short span of one hour再聊go, and there is no topic. Of course, in some circumstances, you do not need a lot of topics.
Are ugly, then many people can not be pardoned. Almost all of these 38 are a typical woman. And their associate themselves into a Federation, said the word eight, short short, is also untouchable.
Knitted brows locked the woman, said nothing less than to discuss their favor, no matter how the United States, but also extremely dangerous, the majority of these people have suicidal tendencies, there is this idea of fear is when you pull a go.
This woman gave me, I do not. Encounter in real life, such as Lin and Le Di and others, are genetically so that they are not happy.
大笑姑婆good, they are a less tendons, all of a sudden forget that sad, very cute. But the majority of life are second wives, mistresses and what is wrong? They laugh about it, accepted with pleasure.
Things people love to eat, not what the majority of the bad guys. Them in their pursuit of food, there is no time to hurt.大笑姑婆glutton and is the perfect combination of多多益善this woman.
Looks like an ordinary, but the woman has shares Aura, the most worthy of love. What is there is Aura? Watch their eyes, we know that one you speak, they have not open the mouth before the eyes have been fixed, the eyes tell you they agree. Even if they do not agree with you, and you will not argue, because they know that the world should have a variety of views, only funny.
We had a new election, the sixties and seventies in a film that is more than a thousand months, has become the heroine who depends entirely on their eyes, and some US-grown, but his eyes dull, not the focus of this woman how education, all taught does not play a small role.
Pretentious, high-profile woman appears most unpleasant - people around her are idiot, and only own one of the most refined. Beauty of this woman no matter, most men will not touch them. They can be seen from the face of hormone imbalance.
"I'm still young, learned how to want to watch?" The children ask me so often.
To learn how to look, first learn to watch themselves.
I want to keep a certain innocent.
Like a baby, the man stared at the eyes, the most straightforward.
Silence the best course of study, is kept firmly in mind, not to express any opinion, or instantly马脚of his own ignorance.
Watch each other's eyes, when they avoid the sight of you, the problems came on the seen.
Nor is it absolutely did not. Will be learned and the elders who you trust to discuss, question their own views and not on. That elders do not necessarily agree with you, you can ask, but you can not refute, otherwise they too tired you can not teach you.
Slowly, you learn to look on, and you must be in all sorts of trauma, when the transaction fee, do not have to自怨自艾.
Prominent cheek bones on both sides of the so-called anti-cheek, it is dangerous to people, and you do not eat and now spits out the bones. I do not believe that, after the point of view much more together, found the proportion of it is bad on many accounts.
Speak only to the population below a row of teeth, which most people are unreliable.
One looks like a pig, which is not necessarily bad people, but are probably very foolish, timid and irresponsible.
No smile from the eyes the same as the condor, very insidious, Germany, Hitler, are examples.
Institute of man when, naturally knows how old. When you graduate, look at themselves in the mirror, saw a old fox.
I am an example.
suggest a better translation.
i阿穆:2009-04-07 12:29 PM
楼主 这只老狐狸 指定长得挺帅的哈。。o(∩_∩)o…哈哈
极有道理!!
相貌也不单是外表,是配合了眼神和谈吐,以及许多小动作而成。
这句话尤其对!
我母亲的文化水平不高,但是个很会看人的人!从小教我做人的道理,同时也被母亲熏陶着学着看人。见人一面,简单聊上几句,就能对这人的秉性有所了解。要达到我母亲看人的照片也能分析出面相性格,还需要实践。
崽崽:2009-04-07 16:33 PM
有道理的。
我看了很多人 可是还是看不懂 也许 看了您说的话 我会比以前强点
din012:2009-04-07 17:34 PM
原来是蔡澜,怪不得爱馋嘴女人,高兴~ 哈哈
那个像猪那句话笑死我了。。
相当平衡:2009-04-07 22:24 PM
有些道理….
经验的总结!
choney:2009-04-08 8:05 AM
好玩。
其实如果自己晓得自己是什么德行的话,其它人的德行也是很容易就判断出来的。
安达:2009-04-08 11:52 AM
生活实在太难,看人更是难上加难
大笑姑婆很好,她们少了一根筋,忧愁一下子忘记,很可爱的。不过多数是二奶命,二奶又有什么不好?她们大笑一番,愉快地接受了。
切 这样的女生是二奶? 怎么没有二根 无聊
总结的很好,我也略有收益,特别是反腮那一段。其实吃人不吐骨头的人在中国有很多,何必要反腮
Guest:2009-04-10 16:56 PM
吃的亏多了,也就看的越准了
嗯,我也相信人是可以貌相的。几次下来,我发现我看人的第一眼才是最准的,相处地时间久了,我反而变得迷糊了。直到有事情发生的时候,才想起对他们的第一印象,居然很准。。。
无敌珍宝珠:2009-04-14 11:58 AM
总觉得楼主这篇文章更贴合生活,但是,这又和心理学有什么关系呢?
R-K:2009-04-14 16:08 PM
顶10楼……
NG:2009-04-15 22:13 PM
希望能看到更多原创的文章!!!
小咩:2009-04-16 11:04 AM
嗯 很不错的文章 学了很多东西 谢谢你吖 希望能看到更多你的文章喔
Since。:2009-04-17 18:37 PM
两面性的人,你看得出么。
只有用心去看。,
写这文的人很刻薄倒是真的,估计性格也有缺陷吧。。。。不能宽容他人的人
dondevoy:2009-04-26 23:25 PM
同意11楼
吃人不吐骨头的境界现在好多人都达到了
zzz:2009-04-30 10:02 AM
本人一定要保存一份天真。
像婴儿一样,瞪着眼睛看人,最直接了。
沉默最好,学习过程之中,牢牢记住就是,不要发表任何意见,否则即刻露出自己无知的马脚。
所幸我做到了,目前还没成狐狸,呵呵。。。
zzz:2009-04-30 10:03 AM
婴儿一样,瞪着眼睛看人,最直接了。
沉默最好,学习过程之中,牢牢记住就是,不要发表任何意见,否则即刻露出自己无知的马脚。
我不这样认为什么外表来看人的。
我个人认为像这样的文章就不该出现在有关心理方面的网站
简直不懂心理学是什么
小雪初晴:2009-05-11 17:17 PM
说得太好了,对极了
daniel:2009-05-11 17:21 PM
相由心生 国字脸的人也很虚伪自私
同同:2009-05-12 18:08 PM
不错、、
o丶2:2009-05-13 2:17 AM
有趣
小幺:2009-05-15 14:37 PM
很好很好,看的很带劲,也受益匪浅。顶
Guest:2009-05-21 10:01 AM
带劲
Guest:2009-06-23 13:47 PM
颠来倒去就那么几句评论的话
阿宝:2009-06-23 16:59 PM
你说的多无聊啊!有兴趣的直接看麻衣神相吧!很准的!老祖先早什么都知道了!
Guest:2009-06-25 22:31 PM
人的情绪只是对环境的态度,是可以改变的,不能看的这么绝对。
、∞芯∮:2009-07-15 9:46 AM
haha 我发现我的腮骨好突的 不过没你说的那么Huai`
、∞芯∮:2009-07-15 9:50 AM
呃 在那?
我在想多面人是好还是坏呢
因为面对不同的人必须用不同面具的嘛
俗话说见人说人话,见鬼说鬼话
我:2009-07-24 18:57 PM
原来这个不用 申请注册的啊
人家说面由心生,感觉是有点道理的吧。
经常生气,和经常开开心心的人不光面向像不同,容光也会不同的。
能感受到放松的同学一定感受的到:有意识放松的部位,血液也会流动的多些。
daqi007:2009-08-07 14:34 PM
我的脸总是太阴沉
可是我是绝对的不坏
可是我给人的第一映像总不是很好这可怎么办
noodles:2009-09-02 8:45 AM
看人真是一门学问
gest:2009-09-04 10:43 AM
有失偏颇,不敢苟同,
十五有月:2009-09-12 23:50 PM
总有漏网的
匆匆:2009-09-19 23:15 PM
人可以貌相~还是有一定道理的,但称不上绝对吧!
小雪:2009-09-23 21:54 PM
说实话 挺讨厌这样做人 喜欢直白一点的
宝贝:2009-10-11 15:32 PM
我很喜欢这篇文章!真的!因为我觉得啊,自己不是那么出众(没自信)。但是还是有人告诉我,我是蛮有气质的(开心);)看到这篇文章说,有灵气的女生值得爱,开心!
总的来说,自信真的很重要!真的,有灵气,有智慧,优雅大方的女生最美!
这些都是别人无法夺走的。而美丽却会随着岁月消失喔~
女生们,让我们一起加油哟!
宝贝:2009-10-11 16:16 PM
好!
mindy:2009-10-12 22:01 PM
说教式地把一件不愉快的事重复又重复,是生活刻板的人,做人消极的人,这种人尽量少和他们交谈,要不然你的精力会被他们吸光。
这句我超级同意,我们宿舍就有这样一个人,自己很消极生活很无聊又很焦虑,硬要把自己的感觉强加给别人,一只和这种人说话真的会疯掉的,还好我现在不理这种人。
心理:2009-10-23 1:31 AM
这世界上我只认为,两仲东西不可能或者用一定来形容!
时间不能倒流,人死不能复活….(不过科技那么发达,以后就不知道了)
此外没什么一定的了!所以希望楼主千万别随便用一定的语气来说啊…
另外我看到楼下面有人说这不算心理学!个人觉得吧,只要有人活着的每一秒,一切都会有心理的存在…
只是非要确定的说专业心理学,这些算不上…那别人也只能问你,你真的了解心理吗?还是你实在还不清楚什么是心理吧?或者你学心理学已经入魔啦?
夕芒:2009-10-26 4:29 AM
扯淡,这文章怎么放这里了,闲聊瞎扯还可以,放在这里就有些不协调了。
另外我也很不喜欢作者这样做人方式,太锋利。
无法面对丶:2009-10-31 13:47 PM
我又学到了很多,谢谢..
木猫猫:2009-12-23 22:27 PM
刻薄啊~~~~~~~~~作者好犀利啊~~~可是,人还是往好处想吧,别一上来就说人家不好,这是不对滴~
我来说两句